Living in China is very insightful. Located in a suburb of Wuhan, Hubei, I am exposed to cultural aspects that tourists couldn’t imagine, and problems in my accommodations that aren’t fixed or band-aided at best.
The Chinese can be quite offensive and rude. The only other foreigner, a fellow teacher, is heavy. When she had to have her blood drawn, the nurse told her she couldn’t find a vein because she was fat. Students and parents refer to fat Americans and tell her she shouldn’t eat fast-food. Mind you, both of us are vegetarians, for which they chastise us, and 90% of the vendor foods we see them eating are fried.
We are accustomed to bathing every day, and some of these people don’t even have showers. A local teacher told me it was so cold during that winter day that she only washed her face, feet and a**, and no I didn’t say anything. Then her daughter mentioned periodic trips to the bathhouse to clean the whole body. The mother shot a look of disapproval to her child. As a side note, deodorant isn’t sold locally. I had to go to cosmetic store in Wuhan, where they sold one expensive brand. Cleaning the entire body is not important. Yet people here have a shoe fetish; having clean ones that is. They will look down at my dusty tennis with a look of disgust.
More than the constant and continual staring the LAUGHING IS DEPLORABLE. If they can’t or won’t help you in a bank, post office, or in my friend’s case the hospital. They will start laughing at you with others joining in the raucous. She had to have a doctor come to her apartment to remove the stitches from surgery she had performed in Wuhan rather than locally.
When we mention these events to our Foreign Affairs Officer he does what they all do, covers for a fellow Chinese. He says maybe they didn’t understand you, or maybe the bank ran out of money. He gives the LAMEST EXCUSES (***see transportation entry***). On the other hand, maybe this is how Chinese "save face."
Chinese here have NO SENSE OF PERSONAL SPACE, PROPERTY, OR HOUSING (***see curios entry***). If you are dining and have your sunglasses on the table, they will pick them up, look at them, and put them down. They don’t smile or motion asking permission. They will look at the book you are reading, and even take it out of your hands to see the cover.
They seem to THRIVE ON NOISE. The fireworks that lie on the ground, making a series of loud bangs, are a daily occurrence. They honk their horns down the streets and sidewalks (***see pedestrian entry***). They yawn, sneeze, and chew loud as well. Moreover, yes, it always appears they are yelling at each other.
Litter of all kinds is everywhere. Are there no trashcans? Yes, in the bigger cities there are. They are square metal containers with the side facing the gutter completely open. Workers come by with tongs and brooms to collect the refuse from the sidewalks and streets. Then later a vehicle comes by to wet the street, but no motorized street sweepers.
Since it is well publicized they SPIT unbelievably large globs and BLOW THEIR NOSES onto the sidewalk, I won’t go into it. I’ve read this is a concern in Beijing for the Olympics. Whether this would have an impact on future tourism, I have no idea.
Trying to LEARN THE LANGUAGE while in China is impossible, if not futile. The Foreign Affairs Officer and one English teacher that speak English would help me correctly pronounce pleasantries. When I would use them in shops, they would laugh at me. Locals liken it to a dog learning a trick. I had read Chinese pity people who don’t speak Chinese. Then when I would go into "the city." I would hear locals talk, and their pronunciations were different. So again, they laughed at me, but because they thought my pronunciation was wrong. They assumed I was living there, not realizing I was surrounded by a different dialect. Where I live, they speak Honganese and in "the city," they spoke Wuhanese.
China has some incredible historical and natural sights. I thoroughly enjoyed my vacations where other tourists visit. Although I have learned a lot living in China, I wouldn’t do it again for all the tea in China. Theirs is a culture too different from mine.