Forget all the nasty thing you have heard about French waiters. They are the best in the world, once you understand how a properly run French restaurant operates.
French waiters are often and undeservedly maligned by Americans because Americans do not know how to eat in France. It’s their country. It’s their ball game, and if you want to play the game, learn the rules. Once you get it, you will appreciate that French service is the best in the world. To start, consider some adventures we have had with French waiters.
1) We went to a two-star Michelin restaurant (no reservation, no problem) having already decided to order the house specialty recommended in the Red Guide, a desert, "Le Coupe Alsacian." I ordered our two entrées and two Coupes. The waiter stopped writing, closed his order book, looked at us and "No." He continued, "Not two. It is too large. One is enough for two or three people. I shall put down one." It came. We ate. He was right.
When was the last time a waiter in an American restaurant refused to let you spend $35?
2) We stopped at a small hotel/restaurant in the south of France (no reservations, no problem). I left my menu translator book in the room when we went to diner. There was one item on the menu that stumped me. I asked the waiter to explain. He offered several explanations in French and in English, but still we were puzzled. "One moment," said he and he disappeared into the kitchen, returning with the chef in tow. More bilingual conversation, but still we were puzzled.
"One moment", said the chef. He disappeared, returning with the dishwasher. "He is from Spain," said the chef, "Perhaps you speak Espangole?" My wife does a bit, so we had a conversation in French, Spanish, English, and a bit of Italian from somewhere, trying to translate the mysterious dish into something two Americans understood. No luck.
"One moment," I said. I went back to our room for the translator book, took it to the table, handed it
to the waiter who studied the book. "Ah hah," said he, handed me the book, pointing to the mysterious words — Roast Guinea Fowl. After all that, I ordered it, and it was terrific.
We spent more than a half hour deciphering three words. The customer wanted to know, and the staff were determined it would happen.
3) We stayed one night at small hotel/restaurant in the middle of a vineyard in Provence (no reservations, no problem). We ordered the prix-fixe meal with that great ice cream concoction, the Coupe Denmark, for desert. At the end the waiter inquired, "Did Monsieur and Madame enjoy their meal?" I replied, "That was the best desert I ever ate."
The waiter asked, "Would Monsieur like another?" Monsieur would. After three deserts, Monsieur was full, and called diner to a halt. No extra charge. Two free superb deserts, because Monsieur showed enthusiasm for the food.
4) Most great French dishes include a sauce, some of which is invariably left on the plate when the food is gone. The French use a piece of bread to mop up and eat the remaining sauce. I finished a beautifully sauced dish, called the waiter, and asked for spoon, which was promptly deliver by an obviously puzzled waiter who lingered by the table to see what the American was going to do with a spoon when diner was over. I used the spoon to drink the sauce left over on the plate like soup. Said the waiter, "Monsieur, in France, we use a piece of bread for that." Said I, "I know. Too many calories." The waiter cracked up, shared it with the rest of the staff, and all bid us a cheerful farewell
when we left.
5) I don’t like to let my wine glass get completely empty. With some still in the glass, I picked up the $125 bottle to pour a refill. The sommelier almost ran over three waiters rushing to the table to pour it himself. He also noted where the level of the wine was in my glass, and never let it drop below that for the rest of the meal.