A recent travel article I read listed "wherever your ancestors are from" as one of the top fifteen travel destinations. Earlier this month, I got to see those places; the culmination of what has turned out to be one of the most unforgettable journeys I’ve yet taken.
I don’t know how long ago I’d decided to try to track down my British roots (my mother’s side of the family), but over the past several years it was an idea that began to have a stronger and stronger pull. This year, I decided, would be the year I made that trip. My goals were to see and photograph the villages where my ancestors had lived, to see if I could find headstones, and also to see if I could find any living relatives in those towns.
I was luckier than some people who try to trace their past, as two of my cousins had done a fairly complete family tree with names, dates of birth, and death (in some cases dates of marriage), and often in the entries a church name was listed. Luck was also with me when I met Mike, who lives outside London. After meeting earlier this year at the airport in Dublin, Ireland, we kept in touch via email and phone. Our shared passions of travel, writing, and photography made for lively discussions and I think we both felt we’d met kindred spirits. I told Mike about wanting to visit the areas of England my family had come from, and he invited me to stay with him and offered to be a guide if I decided to make the trip. Deciding that perhaps such an opportunity might not come again, I booked a flight to London and on August 30 began my journey.
Mike picked me up in London, where I’d stay for a couple of days seeing various Golden Jubilee events and spending time with friends. We started off on a lovely Wednesday morning for the Lincolnshire area of England. The places I wanted to see lay in the northern part of Lincolnshire, quite close to the coast. Despite a late start, we made fairly good time driving and it was early afternoon when Mike was telling me to look in the distance where we could see the famed Lincoln Cathedral. We continued on past Lincoln and came to Covenham, one of the first villages I wanted to see. We started what became a pattern for the rest of the trip: find one of the villages on my list, look for the church, and then start looking for headstones, as in days past, it was customary for churches to bury parishioners in the churchyard. I knew the names and dates I was looking for, and I think I had figured it would be so much easier than we found it to be. It was a somewhat rude awakening to find headstones so badly worn by the elements as to make the inscriptions indecipherable. The churches were shut, so going in to look for the pastor and perhaps get assistance was out of the question. After visiting four churches with no trace of my ancestors among the graves, I began to think perhaps I was not going to find anything.
It was late in the afternoon when we reached St. Mary’s Church in Marshchapel. The door to the church was open, and we went inside. I noticed a table with brochures and literature and went to pick out some things to read a bit more about the church. I saw a large book that appeared to contain all the inscriptions from the headstones at St. Mary’s. At the front of the book was an alphabetical listing by surname and I began to scan the list of names. Almost at once I found one I was looking for – Burgess – and then looked through the Burgesses to see if these were my ancestors. Sure enough, soon I found Elizabeth Burgess, and when I saw the date of death and compared it with my family tree, there was no doubt: I’d found my great-great-great grandmother! Next to her name, there was a number. On checking the back of the book, we found a matching number; this was a note indicating where the grave could be found..."north side of church, old section nearest the church, third row". I was in such a hurry to get outside and find the headstone that I left my camera and everything behind. Mike and I went to the north side of the church, found what we thought was the oldest looking section, and began looking for Elizabeth Burgess. After checking a number of headstones with no success, I was starting to feel very discouraged and wondered if perhaps the book was wrong or out of date; I was thinking I’d have to resign myself to not finding anyone...at least not in Lincolnshire.
I looked at the inscription on one of the last remaining headstones, and saw "John Burgess". Elizabeth’s father! And then I found Elizabeth’s headstone, something I’d come over 4,000 miles to find. Words can’t describe how I felt; I could almost sense her presence there with me. After a bit Mike and I returned to the church to collect my belongings that I’d left in such haste. As we took a last look around, Mike said, "Just think, you could be standing where she once stood." I tried to see it through Elizabeth’s eyes, and imagine her life more than 150 years ago.