If you're looking for isolation, romance, quiet, and a hearty breakfast every morning, this is the place.
We had an ocean view room with a king-size bed. The room was rather small; it was mostly taken up with the bed. The bathroom was also very small, with only a shower stall. We also had to climb up some stairs to get to the third floor, but the view out the window, the isolation, the quiet, and the fresh sea breezes all the time made up for it.
We didn't stay in the room during the day except to nap. The lounge on the first floor had plenty of space for sitting around. We read in front of the huge stone fireplace, and snuggled up on the comfortable sofas.
Every morning they started cooking breakfast early, and delicious smells wafted all the way up to the third floor. They served breakfast buffet style from 8-9 every morning, and it was quite a spread. Fresh baked muffins, breads, a variety of perfectly ripe fruits (the largest, sweetest strawberries I've seen in years), cereals, toast, and various egg-based dishes. While we were they served quiche, frittata, quesadillas, blueberry bread pudding, and french toast. All were tasty and appealing. Hot coffee, tea, orange juice, and milk were available to drink. The coffee was excellent.
Another plus for us was that they indicate on their website (www.greyhavens.com) that the inn is not appropriate for children under the age of 12. Not having younger children running around really encouraged a sense of romance.
They don’t specifically bill themselves as a "gay/lesbian" retreat, but I have a hard time imagining that anyone would be made to feel uncomfortable here. Also, an interesting thing, the inn is mostly run by women. We only saw two males working there during our stay, and they weren’t there long (one was doing some work on the grounds, the other was bringing in firewood and talking to the desk clerk). The staff was polite, responsive, and friendly without being intrusive.
I heartily recommend this place for escaping phones, computers, faxes, city noise, and bustle.